No one is perfect

 It might sound cliche, but it's true, there is no roadmap, no "perfect" book of how to live your life, of what to do, where to go, what types of friends your supposed to hang out with, the perfect job, or even your life partner. That's when of the worst things I had to accept in my 20's, I had to accept that there was no roadmap, no guardian angle, no book to tell me exactly how to live my life, of what to do, what the right thing would be, that's when of the things no one can prepare you for when you grow up into adulthood. 

I say this, because like many other kids, I honestly thought and believed, that adults were perfect, that they had everything figured out, from school, what job they got, to the partner they ended up with, but slowly over time, I started to realize that, that was far from the truth, the adults I looked up to so fondly, were no better than me, they were just a lot better at acting like they had everything together, when in fact they had good days, and bad days just like me, they were human, they weren't perfect, they had hopes, fears, weakness's, strengths like everyone else. 

What I didn't understand until I was in my 20's, was that parents, teacher's, even the people you work with, there supposed to act like they have everything together, that way the kids have some sort of guide to follow, or at least that's how it's supposed to be. I say that, because not every parent cares or even tries to be a guide for their kid to look up too, I know me saying that is probably frowned upon, or even taboo to some people, but it's true. Parents are people too, and some probably didn't even want kids to begin with, either they did it because of society pressuring them, or it was an accident. 

As for the people you work with, like your boss, there supposed to appear like they know everything, but it doesn't mean that they do, it took me forever to realize that, that the bosses I had, people I worked with, were human just like me, they were no better than me, and they all had there good day's and there bad day's too, just like me. 

I didn't realize till shortly after my mom passed away, that she wasn't perfect, she was human, she had her strengths, weaknesses, she had her good days and her bad days, she had hopes and dreams just like me, I just took me till after she passed away to fully understand and realize that. I either thought she was the perfect mom growing up, or completely horrible, nothing in between, which wasn't right of me at all, but I'm sure I'm not the only when who had a black and white view of there parents growing up. 

Or even people I knew in high school, all the drama that happened, looking back on all of it, over a decade later, I kinda made peace with it, we were all kids, how we treated each other wasn't right at all, but at the time, I don't think a lot of us knew any better. 

The point is, no one, your parents, your partner, your friends, no one is perfect, they are no better than you.